{"id":3476,"date":"2013-07-19T01:31:07","date_gmt":"2013-07-19T06:31:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/?p=3476"},"modified":"2013-07-19T01:31:07","modified_gmt":"2013-07-19T06:31:07","slug":"chill-relax-seriously-chill-46-of-55-things-i-have-learned","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/chill-relax-seriously-chill-46-of-55-things-i-have-learned\/","title":{"rendered":"Chill. Relax. Seriously, chill. #46 of 55 things I have learned"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There have been days, especially when I started my first two businesses, when I was seriously stressed. What if I could not make the payroll? What about cash flow when the business was growing and expenses were due now but customers didn&#8217;t pay until the end of the month?<\/p>\n<p>What if &#8230; for most small business owners, the real end to that sentence is &#8230; &#8220;<em>if I fail?<\/em>&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>We all know that a substantial percentage of small businesses fail.<\/p>\n<p><em>What if I fail?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Like many people, I&#8217;ve been fascinated in the turning to look at a wreck on the freeway sort of way by the blog <a href=\"http:\/\/mystartuphas30daystolive.tumblr.com\/\">&#8220;My startup has 30 days to live.&#8221;<\/a><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s very sad and sometimes as I read it I think of the best lesson my late father-in-law left us. When he passed away, the only thing The Invisible Developer asked of his mother is if he could have the sign that was in the garage.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/shopsign1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3478\" alt=\"repair shop sign\" src=\"http:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/shopsign1.jpg\" width=\"550\" height=\"303\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/shopsign1.jpg 550w, https:\/\/www.thejuliagroup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/shopsign1-300x165.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 550px) 100vw, 550px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Forty years or so ago, my father-in-law started a business,\u00a0 a TV and radio repair shop. Eventually, televisions and radios became cheaper and more people decided to just toss the thing and buy a new one. That was the end of De Mars TV &amp; Radio repair.<\/p>\n<p>What happened\u00a0 to my father-in-law, the &#8220;failed&#8221; small businessman? He went on to work for a large company, the same company that sponsored a National Merit Scholarship that sent The Invisible Developer to UCLA to pick up degrees in math and physics, free of charge. He went on to buy a house in the suburbs, raise four children, stay married to his wife over fifty years until death did them part.<\/p>\n<p>You know those families you see on 1950s sit coms? THEY ACTUALLY EXIST! I really think Leave it to Beaver was filmed in my in-laws&#8217; living room.<\/p>\n<p>What did his family\u00a0 think about his failed endeavor? The first time she saw the sign, The Spoiled One exclaimed,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Wow! Grandpa started his own business when he was young? That&#8217;s cool. I never knew that.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>As for The Invisible Developer and me, things are going pretty well with the business. (However, i<a href=\"http:\/\/www.7generationgames.com\/purchase\/\">f you would like to buy a pre-release license that gets you three games for $35 please rush on over to 7 Generation Games and do so<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<p>Still, we keep the sign around as visible reminder that &#8230;<\/p>\n<p><em>If I fail, it&#8217;s very likely that I&#8217;ll go on, do something else and have a perfectly fine life.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So, my advice to you, young entrepreneurs is to work hard but don&#8217;t worry so much. The most likely scenario is that you&#8217;ll be fine one way or another.<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s number 46 of 55 things I have learned in (almost) 55 years.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There have been days, especially when I started my first two businesses, when I was seriously stressed. 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